Looks a couple engaging in spanking for the first time… :-)
“He can’t go out tonight — he’s being punished!”
- bdsm does not exist in a vaccum
- the people who have institutional power and often use it for oppression still have institutional power in bdsm circles (men, white people, straight people, cisgender people, etc)
- they have used this power in the scene, often without awareness…
Reblogging this so I don’t forget it.
Given that I tend to be a playfully-sarcastic, atheist ass in my day-to-day life, not much inspires what I would call “reverence”.
I think I’m going to pirate that last line if anyone ever asks me about how I think about my own masculinity:
So I’m in the process of writing a new Sven and Mimi short story and I have been thinking a lot of late about gender and men and women. Specifically, the boxes we are all supposed to fit in if we are to carry out our gender successfully. I’ve found myself in something of a pickle because I’ve always written Sven as a traditionally masculine person who performs a lot of the stereotypes of masculinity and has his submissive desires threaten his privilege. I wrote a character like this for several reasons; firstly, because I noticed that a lot of submissive, straight men really do have this problem and it was something that I wanted to examine. I wanted a positive example of male submissiveness that was comforting, down-to-earth and erotically appealing to exist.
I like to think that I have taken the man box, redecorated it and added a gazebo at the back.